“To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.”

Friday, February 5, 2010

INSECURITY IN WOMEN

As a Makeup Artist in this Industry, I see a lot of "Insecurity in Women." It makes me sad and angry at times. It can be very frustrating as a Makeup Artist. The challenges of my job can be tough enough and when you get a beautiful actress in your chair, you cant help but wonder... "Why is she so insecure?" I am writing this Blog to give a holler out to all you women out there. Listen up!!! What you see in a magazines, what you hear through the grapevine, what you read in the tabloids, none of it is true! The pictures you see of these women you want so bad to be, they are no different than you and I. In fact, the pressure is on for these women and they have it very rough. Makeup is a savoir to all of us at times, but it doesn't hide everything. Women in magazines are airbrushed and painted. These women look like you and me when they come into the trailer in the morning. Hollywood is a tough town and these women behind the camera are challenged everyday by the next young thing to come along. For some reason we are led to believe that a wrinkle, a birthmark, an imperfection of any kind is obsolete and I'm here to tell you that their not! Whomever started this holy mission on perfect women should pay dearly, for it has caused a long line of unneeded surgeries and breast implants. Women need to fight back, be strong. love themselves and accept who they are. You are beautiful, different, and one of a kind. This sets you apart and makes you special. You don't need to alter yourself to please anyone. I often get the chance to chat with many of my Actors/Actresses outside of work and I find it interesting when I constantly ask the men what they think of women who destroy the nature of there own beauty in or out of the biz. Why do they continue to keep distorting themselves in order to feel better and look better I ask(or so they think)? It never ceases to amaze me when I get the same answer from every man in or out of the chair. "I hate it when women look like that!" and "I don't know why they do it!" So let's be fair for a moment and say, sure some men can't tell if there is a small tuck here or there, or so much as keep themselves from staring at a firm boob job, however; if you ask most men, they will tell you they prefer miss el natural. Lets face it, they certainly don't want to take home the opposite one to mother. It's frightening looking at these women. They no longer have an appearance of themselves, they have a distorted unnatural 20 year old in a 60 year old body. While surgery is a great thing to have in this day and age, we have unfortunately taken it far too lightly and for granted. Surgery today comes far too easy to reach and desperate women call upon a quick fix. Much like a drug, that's unfortunately what it turns out to be, a quick fix and done by malpracticed hands. "IT'S YOUR FACE LADIES.!" It can't be hidden by a piece of clothing. Do your research if you want a little help and don't get addicted, and don't overdo it. We all have the need and want to feel better about ourselves and those with scars or defecating problems also deserve to have these options. But, we all just need to stop abusing them. We are not setting good examples for the next generation. My actresses are constantly putting themselves on diets, or visiting a facialist, being groomed, etc. all for the sake of the next job. They are all constantly fearful they won't work again. This is the Hollywood scare that comes with the job. Men on the other hand are much different in this industry. It seems that the older men get, the more sexy they seem to become in Hollywood. What's sad is while I admire and look at these women I work on everyday, I find them all pretty perfect and beautiful. What's worse is most of them don't find it in themselves to be true. What's even more sad is even when they are made up and perfectly set for the camera, they are still being airbrushed and lensed to death. Their images are then sent to the retouching artist and every line, imperfection, cellulite, or whatever she may have is erased. Why??? What's wrong with that??? Once the pictures are released for a print, it doesn't even so much as look like them. It's awful and damaging to these women's self esteem. This is where the insecurities begin. Most people think actresses and models have it so good. "Being beautiful is the hardest job in the world!" Below I have pasted a few words from Charlize Theron, one of my favorite actresses whom also is very beautiful. I believe she is a rare seed and a very wise soul. I wanted to share some of her words with you. I have always thought them to be very valuable for women. They have always stuck with me...
CHARLIZE...
QUOTE: I grew up idolizing beautiful girls. I'd think, "What would it be like to look like that?" Now that I'm older, I realize that would be the most boring thing in the world.

QUOTE: What most people don't realize is that no matter how others see you, you have to wake up to yourself every morning. I really love myself. I'm comfortable in my skin. But there are some mornings when I look in the mirror and go, "Not so good." Then other times when I get my hair and makeup done, I stand at the mirror and go, "I like it. It's hot." I think all women do that.

OPRAH: You fit into the pretty girl box.

Charlize: It's not a fun box to be in.

QUOTE: "Women are under so much pressure! I'm not surprised we all become part of this beauty race."

QUOTE: WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO ERASE THE LINES IN YOUR FACE. EACH LINE REPRESENTS A MEMORY. YOUR FACE IS A ROADMAP OF YOUR LIFE. IT TELLS A STORY.

QUOTE: "You get wrinkles, you get old. Your boobs sag - There are only two things we know for sure in life - we're going to age and die. What are we going to do about that? Some people have Botox, that's great. Hopefully I'll be okay with not getting Botox, who knows”
QUOTE: “I have a ton of flaws.

WENDI: SO LADIES, YOU ONLY GET ONE LIFE AND ONE CHANCE WITH WHAT YOU'VE GOT. TIME IS GOLDEN AND SO ARE YOU. SO LIVE IT, LOVE IT, AND ENJOY BEING YOU!!! ;)